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Tuesday 26 August 2014

Dear LIB readers: spontaneous sex is impossible for my hubby, why?

From a female LIB reader spontaneous
My husband and I have a good sex life, the only problem is that he can only get it up when it's planned or he initiated it. Whenever I catch him off guard and initiate sex, he's unable to get it up. I don't know how to better explain it but here's what I mean. At night in bed he can make love to me, or whenever he comes to me and says he's horny he can get it up but if I go to him when he's not expecting it, or whenever I try to seduce him without us first talking about it, he can not get hard enough to have sex. Are there other men who experience this? Is this normal with some men?

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Anonymous said...

Oya guys answer the question. #Cherry

DOBY DOBY said...

I tink yes

Olorun Loba $$ ... said...

Fucking things ...

Anonymous said...

How old is he?

Unknown said...

Hmmmmm

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Not me tho,I guess its just normal for him alone.
But no matter the stress of that day,I come alive at night time,I let her CUMe first then I follow the leader.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

Anonymous said...

Bluepilltinzz.cum. My dear na only u waka come ooooo

Oai

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Anonymous said...

He's normal. Not everybody are sex animals that will just have sex spontaneously. Just accept whatever he gives you (since you're ever ready) with gratitude. Remember, some can eat, but have no food.
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Anonymous said...

My dear.. your man is taking viagra. Search his stuff, you would find the blue pills lurking somewhere.

Anonymous said...

Dts serious o.

Unknown said...

I think its a condition called ......... Wait! I don't think I can spell it right, be right back at you!

Anonymous said...

Maybe he's just getting tired due 2 age

ajebuta said...

My dear, ur hubby is using an enhancer e.g viagra etc he's keeping it away from you.

D ROCK said...

Lmao.... The words "spontaneous sex " sounds Funny and sweet. So wetin dey do him??

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Debbie Chelsea said...

Nofin is wrong with him my dear.....Seduce him well well ,he will get hard....

NO NAME said...

AS A MAN,...I KNOW THAT THE BODY OF A WOMAN IS (PHYSICALLY) READY FOR SEX 24/7....(ITS EVEN POSSIBLE TO HAVE SEX WITH AN UNCONSCIOUS WOMAN...(MAYBE WITH LUBRICANTS)...HOWEVER A MAN NEEDS AN ERECTION...SO IF A MAN IS THINKING OF HOW TO PAY BILLS....I DON'T FEEL HIS BRAIN WILL DELIVER THAT ERECTION..(IN OTHER WORDS..A MAN NEEDS HIS MIND TO HAVE SEX)

Dangbana said...

He Has No D!ck...

Anonymous said...

Igbe iya wo. Happens to me too. Madam koolu tempa na stress. A little exercise will help you oga sir.

Anonymous said...

Sorry to say,he is using drugs on u dats y he can get it up wen it's planned or talked abt.catching him off guard,no drugs to do d work!!!! 'Capone'

Unknown said...

Hehe! Men answer!

cyriacus said...

its both psychological and drug tinx"maybe"from the guy viewpiont,i suggest for counselling.

Anonymous said...

Nne im having the same problem. He gets it whenever he wants but if i try to seduce him he ussually come up with excuses.. Tired, not in the mood, someone annoyed him. Sometimes we stay for up to 3months without making love. Ive contemplated flirting but i no get mind to do it.

Anonymous said...

Ur husband is gay

Anonymous said...

Ur husband is gay

Anonymous said...

Beware! your not pleasing to his eyes

Peejay said...

No comment.

Anonymous said...

Was all dis #bright bravo#

Anonymous said...

its not his fault, it has to be exciting for him also for it to come up. try wearing something seductive the next time u plan to catch him off guard, he wnt be able to resist.

Unknown said...

We men like planning nii.lol.actually,we cogitate a lot and use our mind to control alot of things.see lady,as long as he can nailed wella when planned,nothin iz wrong with ur man,just talk 2 him abt it and he will change 4 ya. *** CROWD * PULLER * PLEASER***#

Anonymous said...

Somethg is obviously wrong. Once shld b excited regardles of who initiates. Talk to him on a dinner date

Dee Brown said...

Duh...He just had sex with another woman

Anonymous said...

you should speak to him because he is on pills/ so he takes them when he initiates the sex. when he is caught off guard,there isn't enough time for him to take the pills.
speak to him about it i can guarantee that is then case.

Anonymous said...

That's what happens if u make a man luv u cos d sex u give him . His had enof . U just his sex tool , sorry but deal with it. Or mayb drs a lady givin him d tin outside

Anonymous said...

you should speak to him because he is on pills/ so he takes them when he initiates the sex. when he is caught off guard,there isn't enough time for him to take the pills.
speak to him about it i can guarantee that is then case.

Blossoms by nsture said...

Hahhh na wa o! Maybe becos he aint in d mood, nd also myb he prefers him been d one 2 initiate sex...jst tlk 2 him abt it myb afta u guys av made luv n cuddled up..u cn pop up d que and den liste n hear him out..tell him hw u feel and find out wat cn mk him be in d mood so u cn also initiate dt wen u wnt it..gudluck!

Anonymous said...

This is because he cannot get it up naturally. He probably takes a drug to prepare himself and then gets horny and comes to you. I suspect my husband of same but I don't want to think too hard about it so I don't get depressed.

Anonymous said...

It takes viagra time to work.

Anonymous said...

Men over to you.

ujahmycine said...

My dear young lady, there are two factors at play...
1. Your husband may be constantly under stress. Once one is stressed up and the mind occupied, it is hard to focus on sex. This is equally a tactics employed by those who want to delay ejaculation.
2. Your husband may be on drugs without you knowing it.there may be some tablet, cream or whatever he employs to give you the satisfaction you get.
On a bonus, your husband may just have trained himself to only respond when he is willing.

Thywill Be Done said...

Woman, it is only drugs that can explain this...

Anonymous said...

why will you even share this kind of thing. were lib readers there when you married him or when he toasted you.nawa o. very soon its der lib readers should i have sex with him and born for him.

Anonymous said...

he is on sex pills. he is caught off guard when you initiate sex and that is because he would not have enough time to take the pills.
i think you should speak to him about it though.

Anonymous said...

for me o.
i say for me, na say i norluv u.
anyoda person own fit different.

yaxx said...

yes dear, may be dats his nature, but na big wahala u dey oo,,, jst pray

Anonymous said...

The reverse is the case for me.if planned I can go on and on with my husband but if he tries anything unplanned and spontaneous... I will never ever get wet no matter how hard he tries.I reckon it's my state of mind..

Anonymous said...

There are men like that, the truth is u have to be more appelling, in various ways eg dressing, or make up something attractive so he builds that idea in his mind always so the day u want it, the image comes to play, mine is when my wife fixes extra eye lids and it works like a charm

Anonymous said...

yes its so with some men while some men gets it up anytime even in tragedy.

Qurzim said...

Perhaps u shd jst take it dat way...ddnt u guys court bfo marriage? U shd av noticed ds bfo goin to d marriage...U guys shd see a doctor na...Qurzimb@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

Hmm beta teach him well, 2 gt thro d normal system. cos for me, @any moment evn when I dnt need it bt I cn do it 4 my wife girl sake. ok?

Qurzim said...

I jst count mysef lucky.. .I can operate anytim whether spontaneous or not...Qurzimb@gmail.com

Unknown said...

Hmm that's weird

Anonymous said...

He uses viagra to get it up. You need to find the hidden stash

Anonymous said...

So he can launch it only if he starts it? Must be psychological. He probably needs to work up the heat in his own time.

But it's really not that big of an issue, at least you get some regularly right?

Kimmy*****

Neymar said...

Hummm, dat 1 pass me oo but den ma bf is Alwayz ready, I mean ALWAYZ!

Anonymous said...

He "jacks up" with dragon's eye or viagra before he performs bebe

Dinma. said...

Hmmmmmm,U shld jst dscuss it wt Ur husband. Let him no hw ds mks U feel. Linda,U don turn marriage counsellor? Na wa o.

Unknown said...

U asking us why.... how do we know,,,women dah like sex get married to dose dah dnt, the ones dah hate too much sex get married to men that love it,it's a natural phenomenon is either u choke it up ur ass or buy a vibrator,,,thanks

Anonymous said...

Its not normal dear ! Seek help. I suspect he is using viagra or something else to jump start the p****s that's why its only up when planned.

lizfab said...

Was he like this before you got married?

Anonymous said...

nah it's nt all men. u try n put im in d mood. Make some sexy moves u knw. it sure will help...am a lady tho

EbonyAma said...

Yes it is normal dear.

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Anonymous said...

Dis tin don tire me cef o, haba, men wentin dey happen nau, we women are damn complanin dis days o. Our men shld try pls work on der self. Mine will even back me on d bed, or he use blanket to cover his d..k so dat I won touch itN cos is not risen.

Anonymous said...

Strange to me as a guy oo. Maybe those who have such problems should indicate here. Whether I initiate sex or she does, there must be banging. "Winking".

Anonymous said...

He's not just that into u. There its out in the open. Enough said. Linda post a list of the giveaway winners

Anonymous said...

Its very normal, its call performance anxiety. He feels pressured , just keep on planing it n everything will be cool.

Phaeton Phoenix said...

Lol. Sorry lady. You may not believe this or ever think it's possible but your husband is down low gay as hell! I have heard this story many times before...

Anonymous said...

Well go and learn how to give good head...i bet u are the kind that love recieving head but dont like giving...trust me u are the PROBLEM!! and a good oral sex is the SOLUTION!!

Anonymous said...

I guess ur hubby is using drug to get horny. Hmmm, u knw wat I mean. ##jst guess oo##

Anonymous said...

Then you need to stop initiating Sex Spontaneously. Thats all

Anonymous said...

My dear this is a serious issue. Doris

Anonymous said...

then let him alwyz be d initiative na hahahahaha.#THAT AKWA IBOM BOY#

riches said...

Your hubby is using enhancement ooo, he does not have natural power for sex.

Glzstlg said...

Serious matter. I pray u find answers and solutions to ur predicament.

Anonymous said...

Waiting 4 comment to starts rolling in...Oya, ova 2 d men....#Nifemi#

Anonymous said...

That's unfortunate, but I don't know if it happen 2 some guys. For me, it has neva happen, my compass is always facing North #Pa Samo#

Unknown said...

Its not normal. Unto the next.

Anonymous said...

it depend on mood

Anonymous said...

Wetin concern me with Johnny

Anonymous said...

Ur husband might be gay

Anonymous said...

His using Viagra

Mickycoal@yahoo.com said...

he is normal jst dat is 2 bad 4 a man 2 be fucking same pussy evrytime. ofu otu n'egbukwanu amu

Unknown said...

Wen he plans it, he's definitely using drugs. Lol

Angie said...

I think you need to push him to visit men's clinic ASAP..
He's got a problem, unless he doesn't feel you.

* My R1.50c comment *

Anonymous said...

Your husband is not being truthful, he is obviously using drugs (viagra) for is erectile dysfunction( he can't get it up on his own accord). So talk to him and ask him

Anonymous said...

Your husband has erectile dysfunction. He takes Viagra to get it up for you.

Anonymous said...

try the blowjob

Anonymous said...

Yes, he needs 2 take d tablet 2 get it up or make it stronger, I can totally relate

Anonymous said...

Hes taking Viagra honey. simple.

No jokes.

Trust me, tell him you want sex and give him a 30 min window, you'll see him perform after he has taken his 'medication'

Dr. David said...

He probably uses viagra to get it up in the first place. That's why he can "get it up" when it's "planned". You should assure him that he can tell you anything and if he decides to. This is probably what he'd reveal to you.

Anonymous said...

nne, u got very low sex appeal, thats what it is. He nids to skyke himself first b4 fucking u.

Anonymous said...

Your husband is on sex supplement ( Viagra or some other ones ) he takes them to get himself up and then approach you for sex,.. He needs serious help...

Anonymous said...

Ahhh, ur husband tin isn't working!
Hez been takin viagra to fuck u!

Anonymous said...

Let him drink Baby oku :):) @Tobi

Ijanyimitch said...

Hmmm this is a tricky one, very hard to understand. As 4 me I can get it up anywhere anytime.

Angie said...

Lol.. Isi adighi gi mma!

* My R1.50c comment *

NaNcY DreW said...

Hmmmm wait lemme ask my booboo ll get bk @ u

Anonymous said...

He takes something before sex that you don't know about...he's is naturally weak and unstable...tell him to google on how to help him self,dnt tell him you know what's wrong tho.he would forever be sad

Anonymous said...

Rapist alert!!!

LEEZ said...

Ha! Wahala dey ooo... hope he's not diabetic??? Well he might be using viagra or something...

Toronto Finest said...

LMAO...your husband is using some manpower to help himself.. trust me... Come for me anytime ..anywhere.. I will rush back at you lol

Anonymous said...

Wack wordplay

Anonymous said...

I was thinking the same thing

onye nsogbu said...

Iz simple. The guy dey use agbo(herbs) for prolonged action. So when he takes it, he comes to you for sex but if he doesn't, no action when he's caught unawares...

APPLE said...

He is using herbs . some guys use herbs, without it they can't perform. one of my friends caught her man using herbs.

Anonymous said...

Has he always been like this, when did this start? My dear it must be frustrating, broach the topic very very gently and see if its something you can help him out of. perhaps he is taking drugs secretly to make him strong just before he goes all out. perhaps u can leave him alone if thats the case. he can please u in other ways when u are horny. dont sweat the small stuff please

Unknown said...

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APPLE said...

He is using herbs . some guys use herbs, without it they can't perform. one of my friends caught her man using herbs.

Unknown said...

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Anonymous said...

How I wish i fit love sex like dis!!!

Josh Atuanya said...

He's just taking his SELF CONTROL CLASS seriously...bu I must warn that u should do more on STAYING ATTRACTED to ur hubby...don't use WRAPPER WAR FILM to undermine B SHOT BLUES...its very important

Anonymous said...

That's exactly the truth. No man will always pass a good sex, no matter what. Chei! I pity you my sister.

ary said...

Sounds weird, but we are all wired differently! Maybe he needs to prepare psychologically first to have sex. So I think it is a psychology thing, he should see a shrink!

Anonymous said...

HAVE YOU TRIED GIVING HIM A SERIOUS BJ

Anonymous said...

Some people actually avoid premarital sex. Not everybody is like you!

Anonymous said...

Hahaha..true talk..

Anonymous said...

Lolz! What a funny statement, some can eat but have no food!!!

Anonymous said...

His cheating on u, bcos even if he doesn't ve d strength to do, his dick is supposed to stand showing he has feelings 4 u, he only cm to u wen d real person giving him d tin is not around so pray 4 him so his love will return to u, remember i said pray don't start acting suspicious it won't help bt rather cus more problems. God will bring him bk to u bcos u r his wife ok. Tiii

Anonymous said...

Viagra thingz

Anonymous said...

This is serious, well it depends on d man... Topzyus@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

My dear we have d same case,am having d same issues with my husband DAT even wen I get horny I can't even tell him or go to him at night cos I can't bear being turned down bt i'v never for once turned him down wen he wants it o..... we have our separate rooms,we'v got jst one child for now.am totally confused pls i need help.wat do I do. #cindy#

Anonymous said...

But Wats wit women of nowadays nd sex,na food?d planned ones no do u?na everyday u wan dey chop d thing?haba!!!

Anonymous said...

There is definitely something wrong with him, because on a normal day if you as a woman or lady is with your lover and you get close physically touch each other,kiss or even play with each other,if you guys are meant for each other he is suppose to fill you any day or time, i suppose its even the one tat the woman initiates suddenly that usually gets the guy in the mood quickly.....

Anonymous said...

BLOW JOB would do it all

Anonymous said...

MICKY: what can I say,aint married yet so wouldn't know

Anonymous said...

36

Anonymous said...

Like giving him a BJ

Anonymous said...

Then to Down South Louisiana

Chop Chop said...

Serious health issue here. He should seek the help of Endocrinologist and Cardiovascular specialist. Artery blockage is possible.

Anonymous said...

You re so insensitive.

Anonymous said...

Very wack

chinyere said...

Pls just quietly sit him down and explain wat is bothering you by God's grace he might open , so gudluck my dear.

Anonymous said...

y do people like commenting on sex issues chemicalx52003@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

My Dear, your husband is tired of your pussy, maybe he is not enjoying it as he use to enjoy it when he newly got married to you and let me educate you some men don't marry because of sex or to be pounding on his wife all the time like a newly first date , you just let him be and allow him to be the initiator of sex when he want it.

Anonymous said...

My sis your hubby is on viagra. I suffered the same thing in my six years marriage eventually I realized he was ordering it from Canada we live in the U.S. and they mailed it to a single friend of his who was a pharmacy technician whom I later found out was the person who introduced him to it for fear of me knowing if he visit a doctor. But after our separation I also found out he was gay. I really suffered oh especially as a christian who has little or no experience interms of sexual excapades all I knew then is that he always wants it from the back which I always rejected. Please you need to start snooping before your situation degenerate. A word is enough for the wise.

Anonymous said...

Stupid comment. You obviously haven't lived with a man before. Nigerians give the worst advice.

Anonymous said...

Maybe he does not find you as appealing as before.

Unknown said...

Might be his age.. or hes on drugs... or ur not doing a good job seducing him or.. hes way stressed... anyways... ogbasaaaam.... muwa di always fit

Unknown said...

Viagra tins! maybe, or there is someone else

Anonymous said...

Na problem be dat.

Anonymous said...

For d ist tym...I am goin to comment..I rily feel for d woman nd for oda ladies goin tru ds problems...well,ds is as much as I can say...get very sexy underwears..mostly red,cos red is attractive..den mke sure dey match..dnt wear a pink bra on an orange pant..secondly if it happens dat ur hubby uses viagra..u can get him natural viagra in fruits such as water melon,banana,nd chocolates too..I learnt dat dis fruits nd chocolate plays wit 1nes hormones in a way nd make dem horny..I wish u well

Anonymous said...

He's gay. Why does he need to psyche himself up to have sex with you tho. Somebody must turn him on naturally.

princess said...

Not normal dear,He is either on sex pills to or u r not attractive enof in his eyes hence he only comes to u when he needs it . Pls try n discover which is it

Anonymous said...

Your men are cheating. Why would a man stay 3 months without sex if he's not getting it frm somewhere else?

Anonymous said...

Very untrue! Uncle u can lie!!! :)

Anonymous said...

IT HAPPENS SOMETIMES U KNW .IT MAY BE STRESS OR SOMTHING

Anonymous said...

hmmmmmmm

Anonymous said...

Possibilities include
1. He needs enhancements before coitus. Over 90% males depend on enhancements from alcohol to herbs or pills. Some of which actually do nothing but just toy with their minds and puts them in the 'right' frame to perform.
2. He's gay. In which case you should be thankful he cares enough to even initiate sex at all. Dude seriously goes out of his way to prepare himself to have sex with you! Here is where I will blame you...as you can't tell me you didn't see the handwriting on the wall! I know dis girl always forcing herself on this dude. She even went home to tell all her family he's her fiance when he didn't even 'toast' her to begin with. Ladies and their hustle for husbands, especially well to do guys. After they'll start complaining. Well, you cannot eat your cake and have it.
3. Sit your ass down girl and evaluate your situation. From my perspective, it's not something to be overtly worried about. Some guys have small dicks, some average and some xxl. Some with small dicks are rich and wonderful lovers, some with xxl ones are poor, flirtatious and lousy in bed. We all have our shortcomings. Heck I know a man dat brought in another woman a day after his wife of many years died, and they had sex. So you see, different strokes.
Evaluate what you've been given(or what you've taken) and girl, work it out!
*** forst to comment ***
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Anonymous said...

I see so many people saying you should talk about it. Like seriously? I'm sure he knows his always initiating sex is somehow, and he should even get kudos for getting help enough to initiate sex, so talking about it is the worst idea ever. For starters as a man he'll never discuss his deficiency with a woman with everything all out in the open. #justsaying

Anonymous said...

meet the fuckers .....am out

Anonymous said...

Me my situation is the opposite. I don't know why some women suffer their husbands and expect them not to go out to look for satisfaction.

Unknown said...

my opinion, if he is above 40 yes but if not then something shld be done. A guy might not be in the mood but after intense seduction shld rise fast.seduction is seduction

Unknown said...

or he's jaded

Anonymous said...

It would be Premature to conclude he's into drugs, Ma'am please work on things that turns him ON or on how you seduce him. Eg A see through night gown would do the magic for me. I agree with the LIBr that said you should search his stuffs for pills. That's when you can now conclude if something is found...He needs exercise and counselling. Don't panic ma'am. #BiafranSoldier

Unknown said...

Hmmm.. Sex is now a topic to be discussed, na food?

Princess Charming said...

Avoid separate rooms...

Anonymous said...

You just need to have an honest discussion with your husband and hope he will be willing to tell you the truth. He alone knows what his problem is.

Anonymous said...

May wayne catch una @ Bona

Anonymous said...

suck his dick


are u a dumb ho

SVC said...

gbam! Suck his doodle and make süre u Suck the anus took. I gıve u my Word na u go tire.. lol.. IT İŞ WELL

Anonymous said...

It is normal and natural. Sex isn't like food we eat everyday and as many times as it comes our way.even in that case, You have to be hungry sometimes before u eat.You need to understand each other, then your sex life and marriage can be a sweet experience.
Simpson

Anonymous said...

He probaly has erectile dysfunction a rather common phenomenon forget what hateful and hurtful things people might say here on this blog,it's something that can be taken care of, it might be pschological from performance anxiety,or even from psychological dependence on drugs for erectile dysfunction which he probably started taking recreationally this is one of the dangers of taking drugs for recreational purposes when in fact u do not need them,taking dem for the sole purpose of impressing ur partner in other words drug abuse,might also be due to some underlying health conditions most commonly diabetes mellitus and also cardiovascular diseases like hypertension.Try to broach the subject in a gentle and understanding manner,it's a very sensitive issue to men it's really difficult for most men to acknowledge their shortcomings sexually,some might even turn it into a fight all because they are ashamed to admit it so be careful how u approach the subject as it most likely will be disturbing him also.He should start exercising regularly such a jogging, it helps,he should try and eat well as in healthy meals.penetrative sex for him might put a lot of pressure on him it doesn't always have to be all about penetration u can cool it off a while u people should take it slowly one at a time get comfortable with each other naked and try out oral sex on each other b4 moving on back to penetrative sex.note that if he can masturbate successfully and has early morning erection it is mostly likey psychological erectile dysfunction he suffers from.pls be understanding and assure him of ur willingness to help and be there for him every step of the way, believe u me he will love u more than ever if U guys succeed in getting over this.note that it might also be from stress and stuff.

Unknown said...

That is selfish attitude,nah u sabi joor

Unknown said...


This patient is suffering from anorgasmia and for women, it is called vaginismus.

Millions of men, regardless of age, relationship or orientation suffer from sexual performance anxiety. This condition in sexual situations occurs when a man anticipates some form of problem occurring during the sexual act. As a result of this anticipation, the man becomes anxious or panicked while attempting to be sexually active. This translates into problems with erections, premature and delayed ejaculation or a lack of desire to have sex.

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Eka Joy said...

You even know the colours of the pills, u must have used it before

Anonymous said...

Pls I need someone to give a sex advice, I come early whenever I'm making love/sex with my wife. Pls what can I do avoid this early.release when.having sex. PLS KINDLY HELP.

Eka Joy said...

You don't have to comment if the post angers u

Eka Joy said...

You even know the colours of the pills, u must have used it before

Anonymous said...

He may be masturbating and that leaves him unable to perform when it is spontaneous. When it is planned at least he may not have masturbated prior and thus enable to perform. Know this from experience and loads of guys suffer shit from being addicted to porn and masturbation

Anonymous said...

Ur husband is on hard drugs

iamjavademon said...

I don't know if that is normal but i know that men are suppose to have an errection when they hear sex, even whether he is interested or not. I am a guy and i think you man is using drugs, just saying.

Davina said...

Ur hubby is on Viagra.and the rate at which men get this from pharmacy stores is alarming even the young guys of late 20's and early 30's.when u ask them or try mentoring them to go natural u get d self defence response like,'the stress is much oooo'

Anonymous said...

Wat is wrong with doing it from the back, it is d best.

Anonymous said...

he always drinks kasaprenko,alomo bitters,ops eyin before he comes to you,wen u come 2 him e hasn't had time to take his viagra

Anonymous said...

there is really no clear cut to it. it might just be his nature as a person, try to understand him, every man/woman has a spot; when touched gets him/her on. work on that spot you will amazed at the result...... a man is moved by he sees, if you naked before him the possibility of immediate response from him could be rewarding

Adekanbi Adedimeji said...

My Dear, pray for him and be watchful.

troy smith said...

The reality of life is that as men get old the need some supplements to aide them to perform as when they were younger. Rather encourage your man to take some of these supplements to improve his sexual health , some choose to see the man as weak sexually. A smart woman should even go in search of some of these sexual health supplements and give to her man and vice versa

Unknown said...

For real, I think it's natural every man is able to have Spontaneous sex, but one could be stressed/not in mood and not able to respond at times, notwithstanding,it must not neccessarily be planned or talked before it happens.

Oladipo A said...

Just tell him exactly what you've said on LIB. He'll be worried and would do something about it. He'll open up to you. Be careful when you take advices from total strangers. You know your husband more than anyone else on LIB. Just have a honest discussion with him!

Anonymous said...

My 6inch dick is always hard when my girlfriend is around, my dick is always up north lolzzz. Anyways I think you nd ur hubby should av a serious talk about SEX so u can really get to knw what turns him on like crazy, talk about it nd he'll list it for u, nd start trying new things dear, blowjob will start de magic........think he's gay or using a viagra sorry to say 3222279A

Anonymous said...

He might be on an enhancing pill and what is wrong if he is on one. If he is suffering from erectile dis-function and needs an enhancer to satisfy his wife then that's what it is. The only wrong here is that he should let his wife know.it even makes it easier. He might feel like its a bruise to his ego but opening up to his wife could make their marriage work.

Anonymous said...

Take your mind off sex for a while. Decline once in a while whenever he innitiates it but ensure you re-innitiate it not long after that. That way you are passing a subtle message and allowing him to get used to the fact that a woman can also innitiate sex especially if married. Some men realy find it difficult to come to terms with a woman innitiating sex.

MY TURN said...

Nothing Multimaca can't fix... he would not only get it up when you want it he will give it to you however you want it. if he won't take it from you crush and put it in his meals. it's also good to help him boost prostrate health.

send me a mail to yosore06@gmail.com

MY TURN said...

Nothing Multimaca can't fix... he would not only get it up when you want it he will give it to you however you want it. if he won't take it from you crush and put it in his meals. it's also good to help him boost prostrate health.

send me a mail to yosore06@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

take to Oladipo A's advice.

Alagbado-ode said...

He needs constant supplies of #Alomo and #Alomo - eyin lol to correct the abnormality.

Alagbado-ode said...

He needs constant supplies of #Alomo and #opa - eyin lol to correct the abnormality.

Anonymous said...

Debbie u r d only sensible person here, thnk u and may God bless u, some women don't know how to seduce their man, if u don't know hw to touch ur man when he is not horny u hv a big prob, plz if u don't know how to suck a dick, don't put ur mouth there anyhow be gentle and observe as u go #learn. Woman learn how to touch ur man not all men r sex freaks especially wen u know u can hv it anytime u want u won't b freaked, u guys r married learn how to mk ur man horny as well cos am sure he just doesn't come and plug in abi he wud touch Nd lick and fondle. FYI: u don't hv to look into some1s face to know wen dier enjoyn sometin, just look out for little movements, change of breath patterns, lil moans or stretching then, u know u've hit a spot. Always b gentle and observe. Cheers. BM

Anonymous said...

discuss with him jst what you ve said on LIB u will be amazed the out come, be polite, about it. good luck

pat said...

this issue is serious, talk to him about it

Anonymous said...

Could be too much porn and masturbation causing ed, or he's cheating...

Anonymous said...

I guess you are not sexy enough for him. Na only when conji don hold am tire, that's when he will get down with you. Improve your game.

Anonymous said...

it is not normal for him like that. Men naturally men are turned on by mear admiring a women... Within 3sec of woman coming in contact with you for sex. Except if the woman is very ugly I mean very very ugly.. But his manhood is weak as a result abnormalities in his system.

Anonymous said...

You might probably be the problem. Some women stopped caring about their body because they r now married. You need to see some married women with very bellies and always looking unkempt. Such women u just have to initiate the sex in your head, then come and do it quickly and you are gone. Women should learn to take care of themselves and some of these problems will reduce. Exercise often ladies

Anonymous said...

It is normal, man is a giver & can gv when he has & he may not ve all the time, on the other way round woman is a taker & can take anytime any where,so therefore he is normal, pls keep to him alone, tnx

Anonymous said...

It is normal, man is a giver & can gv when he has & he may not ve all the time, on the other way round woman is a taker & can take anytime any where,so therefore he is normal, pls keep to him alone, tnx

Anonymous said...

It is normal, man is a giver & can gv when he has & he may not ve all the time, on the other way round woman is a taker & can take anytime any where,so therefore he is normal, pls keep to him alone, tnx

Anonymous said...

It is normal, man is a giver & can gv when he has & he may not ve all the time, on the other way round woman is a taker & can take anytime any where,so therefore he is normal, pls keep to him alone, tnx

F.Y.F said...

I think the guy has problem with his erection and am sure he must be using some kind of drugs to get him hard whenever he is willing. cos i cant imagine any man not being able be get hard except he is the one initiating the Sex! chai! as for me i can get hard even @ every seconds of the day! babe maybe u should lace his food or drink with Viagra to confirm what am saying!

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